If you’ve ever discussed autism with friends, family, or colleagues, you may have heard someone say, “Well, everybody’s on the spectrum.” While it might seem like a harmless or even inclusive remark, this phrase carries harmful implications and reflects a widespread misunderstanding of autism. Let’s unpack why it isn’t true, why it can be hurtful, and how we can do better when talking about neurodiversity.

What Does “Being on the Spectrum” Really Mean?

To grasp why “everybody’s on the spectrum” is misguided, we first need to understand what being “on the spectrum” actually involves. Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) is a neurological condition marked by differences in communication, sensory processing, social interaction, and behaviour. The “spectrum” aspect highlights the diverse ways autism manifests; autistic people may have varying levels of support needs, different sensory sensitivities, and unique strengths and challenges.

 

 

When we describe autism as a spectrum, it doesn’t imply that everyone has a touch of it. Instead, it reflects the broad range of experiences within the autistic community.

Not everyone fits this diagnostic framework, and conflating neurotypical experiences with autism risks diminishing the reality of what it means to be genuinely autistic. Read more about the correct language around autism in our article “Why the Autistic Community are Rejecting the Terms “High and Low Functioning” here.

So let’s dig a little deeper and see what you can say and do instead…

 

 

Why “Everybody’s on the Spectrum”

Isn’t Accurate

 

1. Invalidates Diagnostic Criteria:
   Autism is a diagnosable condition based on specific criteria outlined in medical and psychological guidelines. It is not a casual description of personality traits, quirks, or occasional sensory discomforts. By claiming that everyone is on the spectrum, we disregard the rigorous process involved in diagnosis and the unique struggles and needs of those who are autistic.
2. Blurs Neurotypical and Neurodivergent Experiences:
   Many neurotypical people have moments of social awkwardness, sensory overload, or difficulty concentrating. However, for autistic people, these experiences are often more intense, frequent, and life-altering. Equating everyday human behaviours with autistic traits creates a false equivalency that can trivialise the challenges faced by those with ASD.
3. Perpetuates Misunderstandings:
   When people say “everybody’s on the spectrum,” they may mean to relate or show empathy. Unfortunately, it can come across as dismissive, suggesting that autism is a minor issue or something everyone experiences. This perception can minimise the unique experiences of autistic individuals and hinder genuine efforts towards understanding and inclusion.

Why This Phrase is Harmful

 

1. Diminishes the Experiences of Autistic People:
   For those living with autism, daily life often involves navigating challenges related to sensory overload, social communication, or rigid routines. Dismissing these realities by suggesting everyone experiences them invalidates their struggles and can make autistic people feel unseen and unheard.
2. Undermines Efforts for Accommodation:
   The neurodiversity movement has worked hard to promote acceptance and accommodations for autistic people. When society minimises autism as something “everyone” deals with, it becomes more challenging to advocate for specific supports and adjustments. This dismissiveness reinforces the idea that special accommodations are unnecessary, further marginalising autistic individuals.
3. Contributes to Ableism:
   Casual phrases like “everybody’s on the spectrum” may reinforce stereotypes that autistic people don’t need specific recognition or support. Ableism—discrimination and social prejudice against disabled individuals—is perpetuated when their needs and lived experiences are minimised or trivialised.

How to Respond Differently

So, what should we say when discussing autism and neurodiversity? Instead of defaulting to a dismissive remark, we can show empathy, respect, and curiosity. Here are some alternative approaches:

1. “I’d Love to Learn More About Your Experiences.”
   This simple statement shows genuine interest without making assumptions or comparisons. It invites the autistic person to share their story on their own terms.
2. “Everyone Experiences the World Differently, and I’m Curious About Your Perspective.”
   Acknowledging that differences exist and expressing curiosity opens a respectful dialogue.
3. “How Does Autism Impact Your Day to Day Life?”
   Asking someone how autism shapes their life shows that you value their insights and are willing to listen.
4. “I’m Interested in Better Understanding Neurodiversity.”
   Expressing a willingness to learn is a sign of respect and commitment to meaningful conversation.

Why Language Matters

Conversations around neurodiversity and autism deserve careful thought and genuine empathy. The language we use shapes perceptions and attitudes, and careless remarks can do lasting harm. For many autistic individuals, discussing autism involves sharing their reality—a reality that is often misunderstood or ignored by society. Treating this dialogue with the respect it deserves is a step towards creating a more inclusive world.

Recognising that everyone experiences life differently does not mean everyone is neurodivergent. By learning to engage thoughtfully and respectfully, we can help break down stereotypes and foster greater acceptance and understanding for autistic people and the broader neurodivergent community.

Moving Forward with Acceptance

It’s crucial to challenge microaggressions like “everybody’s on the spectrum” and replace them with more thoughtful language. By doing so, we create space for genuine conversations that centre the lived experiences of autistic people. Every individual deserves to be seen for who they are—not flattened into a stereotype or dismissed with a phrase that undermines their reality.

The path towards a more inclusive society requires empathy, active listening, and a commitment to valuing neurodivergent perspectives. If we can learn to approach these conversations with genuine curiosity and respect, we stand a much better chance of building an inclusive world—one conversation at a time.

Building an inclusive workplace doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a continuous process that requires dedication, education, and a willingness to challenge the status quo. Read more about “The Ongoing Journey of Culture Change” in our recent article.

 

 

About Enna Global

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